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10 Ways
to Break
Up
Graciously
Whether
it's you
or your
partner
who
decides
to end
your
relationship,
it's not
easy to
break
up.
Nobody
enjoys
breaking
up but
sometimes
it has
to be
done.
Here are
10 tips
on how
to break
up
graciously.
1. Don't
drag it
out.
When it
is over,
it's
over.
You're
not
doing
your
partner
or
yourself
any
favors
by
delaying
the
inevitable.
Sooner
is
better
than
later.
2. Be
honest.
The
oldest
line is
"it’s me
not
you."
Although
this
might be
easier,
the only
way you
can
truly
help
your
partner
is by
being
completely
honest.
3. Don't
overlap.
The
worst
thing
you can
do is
start
seeing
someone
else
before
you tell
your
partner
that it
is over.
It not
only
makes
you look
bad, but
will
also
plant
seeds of
doubt in
your new
partner.
4. Can
we be
friends?
Don't
expect
to be
friends
after a
break
up. Even
if you
were
friends
before
you
became
intimate,
your
friendship
likely
can
never be
the same
again.
5.
Listen.
Don’t
expect
to end
the
relationship
with
your
partner
wanting
to leave
it at
that,
especially
if it
has come
out the
blue.
Your
partner
will
want to
ask
questions
and may
even try
and talk
you into
changing
your
mind.
Allow
your
partner
to have
his/her
say.
This
will
give you
the
chance
to
explain
in full
why you
want to
end the
relationship.
Think
about
how you
would
feel if
you
where
the one
being
dumped.
You
would
want to
ask
questions.
6. Don't
do it in
a public
place.
Even if
you no
longer
like
your
partner,
the
worse
thing
you can
do is
dump
him/her
in a
public
place.
It is
the
ultimate
humiliation.
7. Write
down how
you
feel.
Ending
it face
to face
can be
very
difficult.
Write a
letter
explaining
why you
want to
break
up. But
deliver
it in
person,
and be
there to
talk
with
your
partner
afterwards.
8. Don't
feel
guilty.
More
often
than not
when we
try to
end a
relationship
we are
made to
feel
guilty
by the
other,
which
makes us
stay and
hate the
person
more. If
you want
out,
then no
matter
how much
your
partner
begs
(“I’ll
change,”
“I’ve
done so
much for
you),
stick to
your
decision
before
things
get
worse.
9. Don't
pick a
fight.
The only
reason
we pick
a fight
is to
ease the
guilt
that we
bring
upon our
partner
when
he/she
thinks
it is
his/her
fault.
Get
straight
to the
point
and
don’t
make
your
partner
suffer
more
than
necessary.
10.
Leave as
you
would
like to
be left.
Being
dumped
is a
horrible
thing.
Try to
think
about
how you
would
want to
be
dumped
if the
tables
were
turned.
Do unto
others
as you
would
have
them do
unto
you.
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